Its that time of year.....isnt it?

It's that time of year. A time for joy, happiness and reflection on the previous year. I always try to think of ways to make next year better. I have so many things I'd like to improve about myself, my life. Not so much myself as a person just things in my life Id like to do differently. Things I want to do at all. Forgiveness is one thing. Well, not so much the forgiveness. I really don't have a problem forgiving people when they ask for it. I was raised that fighting, appologizing, and getting over it were as normal as the weather and breathing. So when someone says "I'm sorry, I believe it's ok. Its the forgetting and the letting go that I have trouble with.. Maybe it's ok not to forget, but how does one go about letting go of it? This is my issue.. I think I do a fairly good job of forgiving people. I know Im quick if I do something wrong to appologize and hope that I am forgiven so I try to do the same. Honestly I am very quick to forgive. I hate when people hold things against other people and dwell on them. I really, truly don't hold it against them. Trust me, I've done plenty of crappy stuff and I've been fortunate enough to be forgiven, so I'm not a fan of holding a grudge or refusing to forgive.But what about this: Someone has hurt you and yet, they either don't think they have hurt you or they refuse to admit that they have hurt you. How do you move on from that? How do you let go of something that you know is wrong and anyone who heard the story of what happened knows its wrong, except the person who did the wrong and they just dont see it. Thats the hard part!! Maybe its because I am always trying to hard, I dont know. If they don't think they've done anything wrong, how can you be sure they won't continue doing the same thing? How do you get anywhere? If you're dealing with people who just "don't get it," do you keep giving them chances? Here's my thing...we are all human. We all screw up. We all deserve chances. But I also believe that you have to set boundaries and at times pull yourself away from people who put you in this frame of mind. People who make you feel this way. Yet if you do that are you truly giving them a second chance , third chance etc. . So what do y'all think? When do you forgive, forget and pretend everything is A-OK again and when do you just decide to forgive and then move on, eliminating a person from your life as much as possible?